Life throws you curve balls at times. It leaves you with no explanation, shocked and stunned. Powerless to fix the situation and even more powerless to wrap your head around it. Could-a, would-a and should-a goes through your head. What if this, what if that would have changed the outcome. You want to go back in the past to correct the future, but you know you can’t. It plays over and over in your head. Just two seconds from anything or anybody would have changed the outcome. But it didn’t and it can’t be changed, no matter how hard you wish, hope and pray. We remember the conversation and laughter, some even just minutes before, and then the silence. We never even had a chance to say goodbye. This is not supposed to happen.
After the shock wears off reality sinks in, and we as a human beings have one mechanism, one gift that gets us all through such a tragic event…time. Time for a while goes slow and it is painfully agonizing, but as time goes on, it provides healing. Time never provides answers, but time does provide acceptance and minimizes the pain. Many may forget, but many of us will never forget. Immediately after such a tragic event, the outpouring of grief, support and wanting to do so much is almost overwhelming but necessary to cope. It’s important that we lean on each other for comfort. We all grieve in our own way, some loud and some silent, but make no exception, we all grieve. Today we can’t accept, tomorrow, though we will never understand will move on and cherish the memories.
Much has been said over the past week, so much so that we all found out even more what a wonderful man Michael Fontes was to so many, not just us runners. Because of Michael’s unfortunate, untimely and tragic transition, and because of Michael’s memory, bonds will become stronger and new friendships will be made. Something good always comes out of a tragedy, and it will in this case. Time will eventually unfold and reveal the good. But for now, we grieve and remember our friend, our fellow runner, family man, marathoner and Boston Marathon Qualifier, and just say “we will miss you Michael for you touched us all in a positive and unforgettable way.” Rest in peace my friend, our friend!
I wrote about my unfolding friendship with Michael and posted it on May 4th of this year. He really touched and inspired me as he did for so many others. Click Here.
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